Conflict or disagreement is normal and often happens when children get together. However, hurtful words, gestures, or physical attack are unacceptable ways to deal with conflict and disagreement at school. We will be using the Kelso’s Choice program to teach students several positive ways to deal with these difficult situations. To do this, we are asking students who have minor problems to try at least two of the ideas from the wheel of choices (see below). This process can be done before asking for adult help.
As students reach 4th grade, they learn to differentiate the verbal choices from the nonverbal choices. Also, students are no longer asked to share and take turns to solve minor problems as they have generally mastered this skill. By using this plan, we believe that our students will develop effective problem-solving skills that they can use again and again. It will help them to deal with conflict in a positive manner and to make appropriate decisions. Knowing what to do will help students reduce the stress and number of conflicts they have at school and in their neighborhood.
Colorful charts illustrating ways to deal with conflict will be posted at school so all children will know their choices. We encourage you to become familiar with this program and use it in your home. By working together, we can develop a healthy life skill for young people to use at home and at school.